Volume 97 Issue 7 Oped

Let’s talk about sex, baby; let’s talk about slut-shaming

by Julia Wagner

Slut, whore, prude, skank: women cannot seem to get a break with the slew of slanderous terms that are thrown their way by society. If a girl sleeps around she is labeled a slut, if she refuses to sleep with someone, she is suddenly a prude. There seems to be absolutely no safe ground for women to walk on.

Many women keep their mouths shut about their sexual affairs, but even then they will be talked about behind their backs, sometimes by people they don’t even know. Why is it such a taboo if a girl likes sex? Why do people take it upon themselves to judge these girls for how they choose to use their bodies?

Enjoying sex should be normal, something no one should be ashamed of—it’s intimate, intense and proven to relieve stress. So what is wrong with sleeping around to get that rush, to get that relief? Absolutely nothing.

A woman should be able to do with her own body as she pleases and shouldn’t feel the need to hide it as if it’s some shameful thing to do. You hardly ever see a man being called a slut for sleeping around. In fact, his buddies will probably give him a pat on the back and idolize him for getting laid.

I’ll be walking around campus and overhear a guy talking about how he slept with this girl, and his friends are hyping him up and congratulating him. On the other hand, girls are forced to be extremely wary about where they talk about such things. If it gets out that she slept with someone she just met she will most likely gain the label “slut.”

The double standard is absolutely appalling. It’s 2016, people. Time to open your eyes and realize that some women enjoy sex, too! That may come as a shock, but it’s true—sex can be fun and exciting for all genders.

Slut shaming someone doesn’t make you look cool or make you funny. If you ask me, it makes you look like a complete jerk and, possibly, a hypocrite.

It doesn’t matter how many people a woman has had sex with or how often she does it, there is no need to call her a slut. Some people don’t like the idea of being in a relationship, but still want to have sex. Some people might prefer one night stands. If it’s not slutty for a guy to sleep with more than one girl, it sure shouldn’t be slutty for a girl to sleep with more than one guy.

Slut shaming has become a serious issue, especially regarding rape victims. There are some who have the gall to claim that rape victims who had chosen to dress in revealing clothing are the ones to blame in these situations.

Just because a girl decides to wear something that makes her feel sexy and confident doesn’t mean that a man has the right to her body. Just because a girl is known for sleeping around does not mean that a man has a right to her body either. To blame the victim because of these things is immoral and wrong.

Nationally, only 20 percent of campus sexual assault cases are actually reported. For change to begin, we need to stop looking at women who dress provocatively or who enjoy sex as if they are in the wrong and should be punished for doing something that makes them feel good.

However, on the other end of the spectrum, women are also judged for not having sex, showing that there really is no way for women to please society. If a girl doesn’t have sex, it doesn’t mean she is a prude or stuck up. She may be waiting for the right guy. She may be scared of losing her virginity. She might be asexual. Yes, there are asexuals out there and there is nothing shameful about not finding enjoyment being with someone sexually.

Most of the time, the label “prude” comes from some guy who had his ego hurt when he was rejected by a girl he wanted to sleep with. Instead of throwing around harsh words and hurting someone, you should just respect her decision and move on.

Sex shouldn’t be something women are scared to talk about, and it shouldn’t be something that is used as a weapon against them. If a woman enjoys sex, she should be able to enjoy it as she pleases, and if she doesn’t like sex then she shouldn’t be judged for choosing not to take part, even if she is in a relationship with someone.

If sex isn’t used as a way to judge a man’s self-worth, then it certainly shouldn’t be used against women either. We are all human, we all have desires and different preferences, and we should not be afraid to act on those how we please.

Next time you find yourself about to use the term “slut” or “prude,” stop for a second and just think about how injudicious that sounds. You should realize that it really is none of your business what a girl does with her own body.

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